Lisa McCune’s powerful message to her teen sons
RAISING teenage sons isn't easy but if there is one thing celebrated actor Lisa McCune wants her boys to learn it is to "respect women and treat everybody as equals".
"I guess it is me saying to my boys, make sure you always try to pick up the signals from people about their lines, their boundaries, what is acceptable to them and respect it," McCune told the Saturday Telegraph.
"It is confusing when people are young to pick up social cues sometimes and some of us are better at it than others. We need to be very mindful of that. As teenagers, that is a time of exploration but a great time also of learning," she explained. But we've got to let our kids make mistakes because as human beings, we do make mistakes. I am mindful of that for my boys. I want them to be in an environment where they are forgiven."
The 10 time Logie Award winner is mother to three sons - Archer, 20, Oliver, 18, and Remy, 15.
Like most of us, they are spending a lot more time together as a family than usual due to the coronavirus.
"I have three teenagers who don't particularly really want to hear anything that I have to say, they're just interested in their friends," she said.
"They have been spending far too much time gaming and watching series and their online life is very strong. And there's complaints about how much internet we have got at certain times. Generally they have been really great. We've done a lot of puzzles and I am making them walk the dog," she said.
"I did have to have a chat to them and say, a, you don't sound like you're speaking English anymore, and b, you're getting skeletal muscle like you're starting to dwindle so you need to do some physical exercise. This is a historical time, not that we should be making light of it in any way. But far out, our way of life, everything is topsy turvy and we are lucky here in Australia at the moment."
McCune, 49, was supposed to be based in Sydney at this time playing Gertrude in the Sydney Opera House production of William Shakespeare's Hamlet, which was shut down because of the pandemic.
She is usually very private about her family life but given the subject matter of her new show, How To Stay Married, was extremely candid. The actor was recently quoted as saying she is trying to "empower my sons and say to them that it is an interesting time for men at the moment".
In How To Stay Married, with the second season to premiere on Channel 10 on Tuesday night, McCune plays Em Butler alongside on-screen husband Greg, played by Pete Helliar.
The couple are parents to two girls in the comedy drama - Chloe and Sophie.
"I am so flawed," McCune said of the lessons learned shooting the series. "We are not perfect creatures as much as we try to be, particularly as parents, it is okay to say to your kids, 'I'm just not perfect and I try but far out I love you'. Sometimes you go the wrong way in a roundabout way to do it. That is what I love about comedy, the stuff that we do and the flaws that we have, it is okay. I am so flawed and now after doing this, I can honestly say it. And that is why I have the right to play Emily Butler on How To Stay Married because I am flawed."
As the title suggests, How To Stay Married is about relationships in a world where parents are often juggling work and looking after kids.
For McCune, life imitated art in a way as she drew on her own experiences for inspiration.
"It is a story that kind of reflects in some way my life, because that is what I'm living is the life of a working mum with teenagers and trying to juggle work life and kids," she explained. "That is what I think I find so charming about How To Stay Married. Sure, it is heightened and there is this crazy amount of stuff that goes on for the Butler family but really is it that far from truth? We all tackle it with family because it is a boiling pot."
Originally published as Lisa McCune's powerful message to her teen sons